Posts in Healing & Restoration
7 Ways to be A True Friend to Someone in Sin and Shame

Sin kills us! Resisting it yourself, and encouraging others to do the same, is a good idea and I would even say is a GOD idea! However, in a world that is driven by political correctness, it can be tempting to partner with this spirit and join in its polarizing effects by treating those in sin as if their behavior is “totally okay.” Or, on the other side of the coin, you may find yourself trying to create a culture of righteousness and in doing so shame the people that you love.

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What to Do When He's Just Not That Into You

If someone doesn’t like you, it’s okay. It’s not who you are, it’s just one guy. It doesn’t mean that no one will ever like you, or that you're unlovable, or not enough. Those are all lies from the enemy. Even if you’ve lost a few games or a few guys, that doesn’t mean you’re unlovable either. It just means you haven’t found the right one yet.

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What They Don’t Tell You About Getting Free From Porn

I can talk to you all day long about the mental and emotional effects of pornography, or pray for your deliverance from the spirit of porn, but if you aren't walking by the spirit as it says in Galatians 6, you will only gratify the desires of your flesh. For the flesh desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the flesh. They are always in conflict with each other. So with that said, here are four important steps to walking in full freedom!

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Reclaiming Purity

Purity in God’s eyes is not something you lose, it’s a daily choice to walk in obedience according to His plan and purposes for your life. With that said if you are single, soon to be married, you’ve been married for a while or even if you’ve lived most of your life in rebellion against God- purity is something attainable to you.

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From Porn Star to Purity Preacher 📺+🎧

Get behind the scenes with Brittni De La Mora who went from being a world famous porn star to now preaching the power of purity to thousands of followers. Brittni has an incredible testimony of how she left the porn industry, got married to a youth pastor and started a ministry together with her husband. She shares the importance of finding Jesus and our identity in Him, having boundaries and being transparent in order to live a pure life not just externally but internally as well.

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Parenting Sexuality: Connection is Key

Biological parents, step parents, grandparents, friends, teachers, coaches, mentors... we all have the same challenge: Our teens need our leadership and guidance through their most volatile season of life, but we'll only be influential in their lives to the degree that they feel safe around us, heard by us, and unconditionally loved by us.

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The Most Common Way Fake Love Disguises Itself & How to Stop It

I’d propose that numerous people have been seduced by things that masquerade as love but are just cheap imitations of the real thing. In fact, I have a growing concern that many within the Church associate God’s love with a version that looks noble on the outside but leads people into deep vortexes of emptiness and bondage.

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5 Ways to Fight for Friendship No Matter the Season

Our friends are blessings (and sometimes seasons) as we mature throughout life. The people that God puts in our lives are meant to bring us closer to Christ by offering compassion, fellowship, humble correction, and forgiveness. If we want to truly maintain and strengthen our friendships, we need to have an open heart and mind on how to love them better as life goes on.

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Accountability for Sin is Not Condemnation, It's a Pathway to Freedom

Part of the challenge is that sometimes people confess but they never repent! They get addicted to the feeling that happens when we bring our sins into light and the weight of shame falls off of us. The truth is that many times the addiction to confession doesn’t result in true repentance or a turnaround in behavior. Confession is important but if you think it’s the only step to wholeness, you’re missing out on full restoration!

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The Other Side of Loving Like Jesus

When most of us hear or use the words “just love them like Jesus” what we mean is the unconditional love and acceptance of the person irrespective of their behavior…

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Self-Compassion: Making Peace with Yourself in Process

So what does self-compassion look like? It looks like accepting what Jesus says about us and believing that we are worthy of the compassion He so freely gives to others. When we take that on as Truth, we begin to look at and treat ourselves the way Jesus does.

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The Holidays: A Time to Strengthen Connection

When it comes to being a safe place, healthy communication is essential. Refuse to engage in disrespectful conversations. Bravely step into vulnerable conversations where you show the person your heart and invite an exchange of truth. Listen well, seek to understand them, identify what they are needing, and help to meet that need.

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5 Lies That Will Keep You Trapped in Unforgiveness

He told me that I needed to forgive the people who abused me or I would open the door to the tormentors in my life. It wasn’t easy at first but I realized that He had given me the power to forgive when He forgave me. Joyce Meyers said, “Unforgiveness is like drinking deadly poison and thinking the other person’s going to die.”

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How to Identify Trauma & When to Get Help 📺+🎧

The negative stigma around going to counseling or therapy is finally starting to lift. Caitlin Zick interviews Dr. Margaret Nagib, Christian Clinical Psychologist, about how to know when or why to go to a counselor. If you find yourself still stuck after doing the best you know how, it may be time to find a counselor. Dr. Margaret and Caitlin also spend time digging into the topic of trauma. How to identify trauma in your life or from your past and the side effects you may be seeing in your life from unresolved trauma. Caitlin also shares from her story and they unpack the events, experiences and effects from trauma in her teenage years. This conversation is a great “starter” for a potential need to discover and dive into more. Want to connect with Dr. Margaret Nagib? You can find her resources or book an online session here at: thedunamisproject.org You can hear more on this topic for pastors and leaders in the Sex. Church. Culture. Vol. II E-Course (SexChurchCulture.com) from Dr. Margaret Nagib or for the females at The More Gathering (TheMoreGathering.com).

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To the Woman Who’s Been Abused

On behalf of women everywhere, kind, Godly men, the church, and even God the Father Himself—I want to tell you how desperately sorry I am for what you have endured. The pain you should have never felt. The tears you should have never cried. The life you should have never lived.

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The Role of Trauma in Sexual Addiction

Trauma is something that most of us have experienced in one way or another, whether it was through abuse, abandonment, or a circumstance that we had no control over. As children, when we do not have access to resources that help us navigate through the pain of these experiences, we will often develop coping mechanisms that can be unhealthy in the long term.

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