Confessing a sexual struggle is one of the hardest conversations you’ll ever have. It’s also one of the most freeing. Sin thrives in secrecy, and freedom comes through confession. Whether you need to talk to a trusted friend, a mentor,…
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It could feel like you’re not allowed to struggle. You may even be ashamed and secretly reading this article hoping no one looks. Or pretending you’re doing research to help someone else out when you really know you need help. It’s okay to need help.
As a parent, the thought of talking about sex with our kids can be overwhelming and cause quite a bit of anxiety. Depending on our own experiences and knowledge, we may not feel qualified to discuss the topic. If sexual issues were a part of our past, or continue to be a current struggle, shame can freeze us in our tracks. If we do muster the strength to broach the topic, it is often much later in their life than it should be. When it comes to talking about sex, the only “unfixable” mistake a parent can make - is to not talk about it.
Ted Shimer has mentored men since 1991 with the collegiate ministry Student Mobilization. He received his MABS from Dallas Seminary and has been trained as a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional-Supervisor. Ted has helped people overcome the bondage of pornography in the context of making disciples throughout his 30 plus year ministry. He is the Founder of The Freedom Fight, an online porn addiction recovery program. He is also the author of the book, The Freedom Fight, The New Drug and the Truths that Set Us Free. Ted and his wife Amber have four adult children and live in Fayetteville, Arkansas.